They’re always around. When you get to work, when you meet in the lunch room, at the water cooler, at the coffee machine, at meetings, even at some parties. CO-WORKERS. And most of the time, we enjoy them. They can be fun to talk to! And fun to work with! However, sometimes we run into the co-worker that isn’t a bag of roses.
I came across this in a book. It says that there are four different types of work place people which all fall under the category of DIFFICULT. (by the way, that’s your bonus code, difficult) So here they are, and here’s how you can deal with them!
THE BULLY: Bullies like to bowl you over and leave your stomach in knots. They like to get their way…sometimes, they even do it under the radar!
HOW TO DEAL? Stand up to a bully. Usually aggressive people expect others to run away. Don’t bully them back…but use an ‘I’ statement. Like, ‘When you insult my intelligence, I feel…..’
THE CLAM: They are afraid of any type of confrontation, so they say nothing, leaving everything unresolved…leaving everybody frustrated!
HOW TO DEAL? Don’t wait to you blow up because of their passive aggressive behaviour. Instead, hit the situation calmly and suggest a solution or consequence. Maybe even go so far as to ask them if they need any help.
THE WHINER: These people tend to deflect responsibility! They’ve learned that by complaining or making excuses, they can put the problem on you or someone else.
HOW TO DEAL? Most of the time, these people are oblivious to their negativity. The best thing to do is say, ” When you complain like that, it DRAINS me” Then suggest they focus on the good first..and not always the negative stuff. i know, I know, easier said than done, but it’s worth a try.
THE SNIPER: These peeps like to sneak attack, hoping you won’t notice or at least not say anything.
HOW TO DEAL?
Ahhh….reveal the sniper’s agenda! let them know that YOU know what they’re up to. Such as, ” I saw you rolling your eyes at the meeting, why don’t you tell me what you didn’t like about….”
Again, easier said than done, right?
As a student of psychology, I am totally obsessed with personality traits! So, if this is interesting to you at ALL..then that’s good. If it has helped in any way….even better!
Have a great day at work!